Crybaby...

So I have been hearing through the grapevine that people are calling me a crybaby...So the question now is 'What is the reason for me to be so emotional??' So let's see if I can have a breakthrough and get down to the root of my so called problem of being a "Crybaby"....

First, I may cry because I could be hurt. I am a very senstive person. I guess you can say I wear my heart on my sleeve. And when it come to my loved ones, I want nothing more for them to be happy and yes I can take things that they say or do personally and I may cry about it. But I have to say there are also times that I cry because I get so mad at a situation and when there is nothing I can do about it, yes again I tend to cry. And to take that a little further, I than get mad at myself for crying and showing that I can be weak. Especially, when I might be arguing with my boyfriend. Because honestly, I hate to show a man that I am weak...I want them to see me as a strong individual but umm yeah, that hardly happens. But I do try... I understand that too much can be a bad thing and not healthy at all...and no one should always be crying but have you ever thought that people who cry might have some underlying issues that nobody else knows about. It's the same thing as someone who is always angry or holding grudges...the first thing that comes to mind is that maybe that person had an abusive childhood or they have some built up aggression towards someone or something....and that can go for someone who crys alot...So who is anyone to judge the way someone expresses their emotions...have people become that ignorant...

Now let's all think about this for a second. When people cry, especially women, they may be viewed as “emotional” as though this is a negative thing. On the other hand, most therapist will say that crying is a great way to release an emotional response and get a more peaceful state of mind. Most people who bottle up their emotions may be more negative emotionally than the person who lets out their emotions in the sense of crying. Crying can soften the temper. It can put people at ease.

Some people dont cry instead they just get angry and lash out on everyone. You can say I do things a little more subtle. What is the purpose of always getting mad and exploding and saying things you might regret? Dont get me wrong, I have my moments of outbursts too....but if you think about it that doesnt get you anywhere either. Instead of being a crybaby you are just being a aggravated, maddened, hot under the collar, huffy, outraged, irate person. And you know what... I would take that a little bit more negatively...

Now I can take this a little further and say that crying is actually good for you. Tears, reduce tensions, remove toxins, and increase the body’s ability to heal itself.

There is a caution about crying too much. One psychotherapist says, "People who cry easily should feel glad they’re in touch with their feelings. But if they’re crying a lot in response to criticism, they should try to get some counseling. This kind of crying is an alarm bell of a far deeper hurt; it could signify a loss of self-esteem that is triggered whenever anyone says anything negative."

So in all that being said, maybe I do have an emotional problem. Maybe I do have some self esteem issues. But who is anybody to come at me calling me names when they do not know anything about me. They have not lived my life. They have no idea the things that have happened to me. They dont know the places I have been or the things I might have seen. But you know what...they have more issues than me... Why do they care that I might cry about something when they dont care about my well being...that goes back to the last blog that I posted...Stop being concerned about my life and the things I do...and what happend with that saying that we all grew up learning.."If you dont have anything nice to say dont say anything at all" or even better how about the golden rule.."Treat others the way you would want to be treated"